Last week I wrote about how stressful it can be when you’re hosting Thanksgiving. Since more of us will be guests than hosts, here are my guidelines for being a great guest. After all, getting invited back means you won’t have to host next year!
1. Offer to bring something…then make sure you bring it on time and ready to serve. Your host’s oven and kitchen space will be very limited, the last thing they need is for you to be cooking your dish, or worse, assembling it and making a mess.
2. Arrive on time. Even if your host is notoriously late to serve the meal, make sure you’re raring and ready to go at the appointed time. Conversely, don’t show up hours early. Your host has enough to do—entertaining you shouldn’t be one of them.
3. Sample the sides. It may look like a lot of food, but it’s also a lot of people, and there may not be enough to go around if you take more than your fair share. So even if the only side dish you like is mashed potatoes, refrain from filling half your plate with spuds. Wait until everyone has been served and then add to your portion. Also, sampling avoids having to choke down a large quantity of something after learning it tastes awful.
4. Bring a gift…but don’t expect it to end up on the table. An edible host or hostess gift is just that—a gift. It’s intended for the recipient and they don’t have to share it with you or anyone else at the party. You may bring it secretly hoping they’ll pass it around, but it might not go with the rest of the meal or there may not be enough for everyone. Whatever the reason, don’t be offended and don’t draw attention to the fact that it’s not out for public consumption.
5. Stay out of the way. This is especially important for overnight guests. Be sensitive to your host’s need to prep for the Thanksgiving meal. Don’t linger too long after breakfast. The kitchen is expensive real estate on Thanksgiving and your host needs every inch of space without having to work around you and your cereal bowl. By all means, don’t eat anything unless it’s offered. You never know what will be used for the Thanksgiving meal so avoid raiding the fridge for a midnight snack the night before.
6. Offer to help. Be ready to pitch in at a moment’s notice, but don’t turn up your nose at your assigned job. It may not seem important, but whatever you’re tasked with is one less thing your host has to do before everyone can sit down to the meal. Whether that’s setting the table or walking the dog.